Being a father or mother and having your children enrolled in a team sport, surely you have asked yourself this question more than once. On the contrary, if you are a coach or coach, you have not asked this question, but it is usual to hear it game after game or after training …
There are even people who have come to dream at night about the ‘happy little question’ why doesn’t my son play? why has my daughter played less than….?
If you get tired of having to argue your technical decisions day by day, copy the link of this post on your mobile and, every time they ask you, forward it!
1- IF YOUR CHILD DOES NOT ALWAYS PLAY, IT IS BECAUSE THEY PLAY IN A TEAM SPORT!
It seems logical, but for most it is difficult to understand. One of the main values of team sport is teamwork. This means accepting that not only you exist. You need to cooperate with the rest of the people on the team to reach a common goal . Sometimes with more favorable results, and other times, with learning (let’s always get the positive side out of it).
2- ATTENDING THE TRAININGS IS IT SO IMPORTANT?
“My daughter hasn’t attended training all week, she had to study. But bah! I don’t think they are that important, the game is what counts. ”
Big mistake. Training is the place where boys and girls earn the right to play. It is not because they have to demonstrate their quality, but rather that this fact shows their behavior , their desire to learn, their effort, punctuality, etc.
Let’s say that training is a reflection of the athletes’ commitment to the team, their teammates and the sport itself. It is advisable point out the attendance of boys and girls to training for two main reasons: To be able to justify decisions to parents, and to be able to notify them in case their child is absent more than a workout.
There are conflicting ages where our boys and girls have “other priorities”. With the Esportter app, the club’s coaching staff will be able to quickly mark who has attended training, and save a history “just in case”.
3- THE BEHAVIOR AS PRECEDING
“My son is the Messi of the team; How is he not going to play in the game? ”
Playing should be the reward to be earned through behavior and effort. If you want sport to be seen not only as a competition, but as an educational tool , these values must be linked to participation or not, in the weekend game.
4- TEACH VALUES IN THE CLOSE-UP
The main objective should be the transmission of values related to the world of sport, such as camaraderie, effort, improvement, respect or solidarity.
Be careful about promoting unhealthy competitiveness from a young age . On many occasions it is the parents themselves who encourage such behavior; something not positive and that can incite violence against children.
BEFORE THE CRITICISM, DO SELF-CRITICISM
In short, remember fathers and mothers! Before asking the coach, assess whether your children attend training sessions, and have a consistent behavior. And don’t forget that if they attend a team sport, they won’t always be able to play all at the same time.
These are the 4 strongest arguments to defend that a boy or girl does not play more than the rest. If you can think of any other reason, leave us a comment.